How to Approach a Girl in Public…

is is a good way to approach women in a public setting without seeming creepy. You can meet women anywhere, you just need to know where and how to look. Who knows, you may even meet your future wife standing at a bus stop!


Start Looking

1.Get out in public and seek them out. Most intelligent and classy girls do not go door to door looking for dates.

Remember, the more you put yourself out there, the easier things will get. You may not win each girl over, but you’ll learn what works and what doesn’t.

2. Enter a public place, acceptable place. If you approach women in dimly-lit or abandoned parking lots, you’re not going to be successful, no matter how charming you are.

City centers work great.

Bars and clubs have the benefit that women expect to be approached there, which means your intentions are usually pretty clear. The drawback is that you may get less time to convince them you’re interesting or worthy of their time.

Make Contact

1.Seek eye contact. If you see someone you’d like to meet, try to make eye contact before talking to her. Once you catch her eye, try to maintain eye contact.

If you repeatedly make eye contact with someone, it could be a sign that she wants you to approach her. Experts say that it takes three peeks from a girl to signal to a guy that she wants to be approached.

Don’t overdo the eyes. After eye contact is made, don’t just sit there gazing at her like a stalker. Be sure you move onto the conversation part before long, or she could try to avoid you.

2. Smile. A friendly smile is a great way to show someone that you’re interested in them. Try to avoid leering, however. You don’t want her to think you’re a player. First impressions are very important.

Practice your smile beforehand. Is it sincere? Does it look inviting, not cocky? There are many different emotions that are voiced in a smile; make sure you choose the right ones!


Start Talking

1. Approach with confidence. Don’t use cheesy pick-up lines (a pick-up line is a conversation opener with the intent of engaging an unfamiliar person for sex, romance, or dating). Start with something simple to break the ice.

2.Keep your environment in mind. This is called pacing. You want to think of something appropriate to say in that environment.

3.Have a fun conversation. After you’ve gotten her attention with a situational comment, you can start to have a conversation.

4.Work in subtle compliments as conversation starters. Work on her flattering a little bit by mentioning something about her looks.

Don’t talk about feminine body parts, as a rule of thumb. Most girls are not flattered when you talk about their breasts, especially if you don’t know them. So play it safe and compliment their hair, their eyes, their lips, or their clothes.

Make Future Plans

1.Have a goal for the end of the conversation. If she let’s you charm for a short while and you think you have a shot at seeing her again or continuing the conversation somewhere else, have a “closer” in mind.

One closer could be asking for her phone number or email address. If things are going smoothly you’ll want to maintain contact with her. It’s common for guys to think a woman is uninterested, but when they ask for her phone number they find out she is actually very eager to give it to them.

Another closer could be going on an instant date. Ask her if she wants to grab a meal somewhere. Always choose a public place for an instant date; you want her to feel comfortable.

2.Take a hint if she’s not interested. If she’s busy, or if your comic genius is not being appreciated, then say, “It was great to meet you” and cut your losses. If you come on too strong, some women might feel threatened.

Remember, you’re going to be shut down some of the time. It just comes with the territory. But the upside is that you’re also going to have some success. If you’re nice, funny, and charming, your successes will far outweigh your failures.

Never get upset at a girl if she doesn’t want your attention. Take her refusal with as much grace as possible. You never know if you’ll see her again, or if she’ll feel bad about not giving you a chance and come back to talk to you. You get more bees with honey than you do with vinegar.

3.Give yourself a pat on the back. Whether or not you succeed on your first attempt to meet a girl in public, you have just increased your confidence level. If you approach enough women in this way it won’t be long before you find someone who you share real chemistry with……best of luck.


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